How often do you pay attention to those thoughts in your head. Do you treat yourself well by pumping up your ego or do you tend to put yourself down? You are your own best friend. There is no one else in the world that has the ability to treat you as well as you.
Why would you ever want to bully yourself? There is enough heartache in the world without you adding to your own misery. You should be celebrating who you are. Pump up that ego and let yourself know that you are worthwhile and can accomplish anything.
Here is an example of the power of your thoughts: Two people walk into a room. One person feels really good about the way they look in their outfit, and are excited about seeing and catching up with some old friends. The other person walking in feels bad about their appearance. They are embarrassed about the way they look. They are also meeting up with friends, but feel that it is more of an obligation that a good time. Which person might have something special occur? When a person feels good and radiates those feelings, people are drawn to it. That person might get a compliment or offered a drink by another patron. Remarkable things happen to those who radiate confidence, joy and acceptance in who they are. The person who came in feeling bad, is most likely to have an awful experience. Even if they don’t realize that they are feeling down, chances are people will avoid them or possibly feel offended by a look or a reaction that person gives them.
Every now and then, check in on yourself. Think about how you are feeling. Are you happy with the way things are going? Should improvements be made? Find ways to tweak what you don’t like and celebrate what you do.
The bottom line here is that when you take care of yourself and make sure to build yourself up, remarkable things happen. When you become your own worse enemy, others will follow suit and treat you in that same fashion. Your happiness and ultimately your success is all based on you.
Wendy McCance
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When we stop thinking about ourselves we learn about ourselves, and others learn about us. Good article!
Thank you.
That is very true, happy thoughts create a happy attitude and open us to all possibilities.
The difficulty lies when we spiral down in more and more negative thoughts.
A good start is to listen to Louise Hay
I love Louise Hay. She is remarkable.
This article rings true. Envision success and happiness and they will follow.
Exactly.
You are so right when you say your thoughts control your happiness and perceptions. Having positive thoughts will always get you closer to success and happiness.
Hi Wendy,
Oops! I should have read this before I participated in the Q&A post. I actually experienced both scenarios that you painted in your post. In the end, I remember a cute little poster that a teacher of mine had hung in her classroom: “I know I’m somebody ‘cuz God don’t make no junk.” I learned to relax. That used to be my problem. I operate on the fact that if I don’t like something about myself, change it or move on. Someone once told me that it must be nice to live in a rose-colored glasses world. That’s where I live and I LUH-ve it! Thanks for the post.
Karina
Love your comment. Thanks so much.
Life can throw some very serious and dramatic situations at you. We don’t usually know how to deal with them. With God’s help we make it through. We all have different ways of handling these situations. I have found mine through writing. Although I cannot write about every situation because they involve others, writing in general is a release. We each have to find out what works best for us.
http://www.cognitivecompost.com
I agree. Thanks for your comment.
Totally agree with you. I am happy from my life as I constantly pay attention on things happening inside as well as outside me. But there is a lot that need improvement & I am doing my best
That’s all anyone can do. It’s great that you are so present and aware of what your feeling and how to get past rough moments.
For me, it’s all about self-talk and perspective. When I am feeling really overwhelmed or depressed I spend a lot of times asking myself questions. I know that sounds silly. But I act as a therapist for myself. i try to figure out why I’m feeling this way, what might be influencing my feelings, what’s going on in my life that might make me feel these things. Identifying triggers or things that are causing stress really help me break it down. Labeling and identifying help me take the “beast that feels huge” and wrangle it in so it’s a more manageable beast. This helps me gain perspecitve on what’s really bothering me and make something HUGE become more manageable.
Vicky
It doesn’t sound silly, it sounds healthy. Being able to work through the moments when you get stuck is a sign of strength.
Yeah you are so bloody right…………..
Thanks.
I meant ‘how I’m perceived’
Good point!
Two things I try and bear in mind:
1. I have to stop and physically focus on your level of confidence, otherwise it’s below your level of consciousness
2. I have the power to change my outward appearance and home I’m perceived
so true! Thanks