It’s the Little Gestures That Count


Article by Wendy McCance

It occurred to me when I was sick with the flu.  Those little gestures that really show how much care a person puts into their relationship with another.  How much do we pay attention to the little details that show how much someone cares for you?  I was under the weather and just needed to rest.  With three children (even though they are older) rest isn’t the easiest thing to do.  The kids are wonderful, but when you aren’t feeling up to par, hearing mom, mom, mom wears on you after a while.

I am the nurturer of the house.  I’m the one who plays nursemaid when someone in the family isn’t feeling well.  It never occurred to me that it would be nice to have someone play that role for me.

So, there I was sick and cranky, and my husband encouraged me to get some rest.  He was willing to hang out with the kids while I slept.  That day when I was sick, my husband asked if I would like some tea or maybe some soup.  I was grateful for the pampering he was offering.

It got me thinking about what really matters in a relationship.  Flowers, jewelry and candy are nice.  Give me flowers anytime and you have made my week.  What really holds up over time though are those moments when love is expressed in the quietest most gentle of ways.

Sometimes I will have a busy day and by late afternoon I am exhausted.  My husband has been known to jump in and take over making dinner.  There have been times where I have had a stressful day and my husband will grab a pizza, get a bottle of wine and have me pick out a movie for us to watch.  He will just take over and set an environment where I can just decompress.

Each day, unless my husband’s schedule is unusually busy, I will get a call at lunchtime just to check in and see how my day is going.  On Sunday’s it’s not unusual to wake up to my husband making some pancakes for the family.  Many times he will go out and get me a Sunday paper (which I love to leisurely read).  I feel lucky to be married to a guy who can be so mushy in such an ordinary sort of way.

So, here’s to my husband, a big thank you for your caring way.  I feel lucky to have found a man who truly shows his feelings in the sweetest of ways.

Wendy McCance

Wendy McCance is a Michigan based freelance writer and social media consultant. Wendy has gained attention as the founder of the popular blog Searching for the Happiness which can be viewed in 6 local papers online, including the Oakland Press.The combination of writing skills and social media knowledge is what makes Wendy such a powerhouse to work with. Stay tuned for opportunities to advertise, guest post and as always, have your questions answered.

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11 thoughts on “It’s the Little Gestures That Count

  1. Let me give you another point of view, please. Yes, more than obvious that your hubby is not the common folk. However, let’s bear in mind - women- that this is what we are absolutely entitled to have. We should not let anyone treat us with less concern and tenderness than that. It is time that we, women, respect ourselves too and teach our children that we all have the same rights. We should all care for each other. We are creatures of God. Best wishes and enjoy your life.

    • Thanks so much. I’d like to add that if you have read some of my older posts, my life is very different now than it was several years back. My first marriage was nothing like this. Let’s just say that I wasn’t in a safe environment. It is possible to go after the wrong type of person, learn from it and find someone who will treat you well. I wish all the best for everyone. I hope you may find someone who will treat them with kindness, respect and friendship.

    • Hi Franceska, treat yourself with kindness, respect and integrity and don’t settle for less than you deserve. The right person will be drawn to those characteristics because they have them too. All the best.

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